1. Helpful evil

    evilsupplyco:

    If you are an artist, when you get stuck, draw bigger and on tracing paper when you are stuck. Consider this manual photoshop. Use scissors, trace, refine.

    If you are a writer, when you get stuck, get a pad of paper and at least two colors of pen that contrast. When you get stuck, use your “replace this with actual language later” color. Just write what you want to say. “Make angry hero cry as villain drinks amazing latte. Figure out words later.”

    If you get stuck in life, clean up your area and think about how big, and how small, the universe is. Either direction is practically infinite, suspending you in the middle.

    If you are fey, remember when you weren’t. It will build compassion when you deal with mortals.

    If you are a potato, please advise us how you use the Internet. We have so many questions, sentient spud bud.

    (via nonnonmodernist)

  2. Anonymous asked: Towards the whole "pronouns hurt people's feelings" topic. Am I REALLY the only person on the planet that thinks people are becoming far to sensative? Nearly to the point that they shouldn't leave their little home bubbles in the case that a bird chirps next to them in a way that sounds like a mean word. Maybe, JUST MAYBE, we're becoming a little TOO coddling and people need to learn to deal with simplistic shit like words. And yes, I've been insulted and made fun of. I got over it. So can you.

    thefrogman:

    Supposedly invented by the Chinese, there is an ancient form of torture that is nothing more than cold, tiny drops falling upon a person’s forehead. 

    On its own, a single drop is nothing. It falls upon the brow making a tiny splash. It doesn’t hurt. No real harm comes from it. 

    In multitudes, the drops are still fairly harmless. Other than a damp forehead, there really is no cause for concern. 

    The key to the torture is being restrained. You cannot move. You must feel each drop. You have lost all control over stopping these drops of water from splashing on your forehead. 

    It still doesn’t seem like that big of a deal. But person after person, time and time again—would completely unravel psychologically. They all had a breaking point where each drop turned into a horror. Building and building until all sense of sanity was completely lost. 

    "It was just a joke, quite being so sensitive."

    "They used the wrong pronoun, big deal."

    "So your parents don’t understand, it could be worse."

    Day after day. Drop after drop. It builds up. A single instance on its own is no big deal. A few drops, not a problem. But when you are restrained, when you cannot escape the drops, when it is unending—these drops can be agony. 

    People aren’t sensitive because they can’t take a joke. Because they can’t take being misgendered one time. Because they lack a thick skin. 

    People are sensitive because the drops are unending and they have no escape from them. 

    You are only seeing the tiny, harmless, single drop hitting these so-called “sensitive” people. You are failing to see the thousands of drops endured before that. You are failing to see the restraints that make them inescapable.

  3. nonnonmodernist:

    “There’s a tendency to value romantic and sexual relationships over other types of relationships, where friendship and queerplatonic connections are considered the training wheels for the real relationship, and where it’s assumed that nonsexual partners always take a back seat to other kinds of relationships. And don’t enjoy a connection with the same emotional depth as a sexual relationship. We are, after all, just the second fiddles, the entertainment while the primary partner is away. The devaluation of these kinds of connections means that many people are also deeply confused by them, especially when they encounter queerplatonic partners in person. And I do say partner, and sometimes refer to the unit formed by a partner and myself as a couple, because we are. We function like a couple, we do things together, we are intimate with each other, though not necessarily in the way people expect. We are a couple. (…) We baffle and confuse people. They don’t understand how two people who appear on the surface to be a romantic couple are not, and all the attempts in the world to disentangle their assumptions usually end up just more snarled and snagged, because of the deeply rooted social attitudes about relationships and friendships and everything between. The very concept of a queerplatonic relationship is beyond the ken for most people; even if it’s thumbnail defined as an intense friendship, though this is not really accurate, people still don’t get it. They can’t fathom the idea that people can enjoy intimate relationships that are not intimate in the sexual sense.”

    “I Don’t Mean to Baffle You, But I Do: Queerplatonic Partnerships” (via meiringens)

  4. yayponies:

obsoletehauswife:

julianahuxtable:

thepoliticalfreakshow:
Flying Solo: This 92-Year-Old Transgender Widow Is Fighting To Be Treated Like Any Other Widow

After serving as a pilot during WWII, Robina Asti transitioned to living as a woman in the 1970s.



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Now 92 years old, she fondly remembers spending time over the Pacific during World War II. She was only 21 at the time.
Getting her pilot’s license at just 18, Robina became a commercial pilot and flight instructor.




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In 1976, she decided to begin living as a woman “in body, soul, and mind.” The prejudice against her at that time was extraordinary.







Working as a vice president of a mutual fund, she would go to work in men’s clothing and then change in the evenings.
“It was quite burdensome, and I knew it would never be accepted then. So I quit and decided I had to live and work as a woman.”



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She legally changed the sex on her pilot’s license, her driver’s license, and obtained a U.S. passport as a woman. For Robina, it was a complete rebirth.



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She soon met Norwood Patton, the man who would one day become her husband.






When things became serious, Robina knew she would have to tell Norwood about her transition.






Less than a week later, Norwood came back.




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Every month, Norwood would ask for her hand in marriage. Every month, she would refuse.



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Finally in 2004, Robina married her longtime sweetheart in a small ceremony in an airplane hangar in Orange County, N.Y.
“It was, without a doubt, the finest time in my life.”



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Eight years later, Norwood passed away at the age of 97.



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After his passing, Robina applied for survivor benefits with the SSA. She was denied after it was determined she was “legally male” at the time of their marriage — despite all the legal documents she had in her possession.



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“I am so insulted that the Social Security Administration refused to recognize me as a woman and treated my marriage to Norwood in such a disrespectful way.”



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In June 2013, Lambda Legal filed a request for reconsideration on Robina’s behalf. After more than six months, there is still no word from the Social Security Administration.







She hopes that her case is a success, not for the money, but for “the act of humanity which is necessary here.”







This is why laws matter you apathetic assholes

wowwwwww this is surreal.

    yayponies:

    obsoletehauswife:

    julianahuxtable:

    thepoliticalfreakshow:

    Flying Solo: This 92-Year-Old Transgender Widow Is Fighting To Be Treated Like Any Other Widow

    After serving as a pilot during WWII, Robina Asti transitioned to living as a woman in the 1970s.

    After serving as a pilot during WWII, Robina Asti transitioned to living as a woman in the 1970s.

    Now 92 years old, she fondly remembers spending time over the Pacific during World War II. She was only 21 at the time.

    Getting her pilot’s license at just 18, Robina became a commercial pilot and flight instructor.

    This 92-Year-Old Trans WWII Veteran Is Fighting To Be Treated Like Any Other Widow

    In 1976, she decided to begin living as a woman “in body, soul, and mind.” The prejudice against her at that time was extraordinary.

    This 92-Year-Old Trans WWII Veteran Is Fighting To Be Treated Like Any Other Widow

    Working as a vice president of a mutual fund, she would go to work in men’s clothing and then change in the evenings.

    “It was quite burdensome, and I knew it would never be accepted then. So I quit and decided I had to live and work as a woman.”

    Working as a vice president of a mutual fund, she would go to work in men's clothing and then change in the evenings.

    She legally changed the sex on her pilot’s license, her driver’s license, and obtained a U.S. passport as a woman. For Robina, it was a complete rebirth.

    She legally changed the sex on her pilot's license, her driver's license, and obtained a U.S. passport as a woman. For Robina, it was a complete rebirth.

    She soon met Norwood Patton, the man who would one day become her husband.

    She soon met Norwood Patton, the man who would one day become her husband.

    When things became serious, Robina knew she would have to tell Norwood about her transition.

    When things became serious, Robina knew she would have to tell Norwood about her transition.

    Less than a week later, Norwood came back.

    This 92-Year-Old Trans WWII Veteran Is Fighting To Be Treated Like Any Other Widow

    Every month, Norwood would ask for her hand in marriage. Every month, she would refuse.

    Every month, Norwood would ask for her hand in marriage. Every month, she would refuse.

    Finally in 2004, Robina married her longtime sweetheart in a small ceremony in an airplane hangar in Orange County, N.Y.

    “It was, without a doubt, the finest time in my life.”

    Finally in 2004, Robina married her longtime sweetheart in a small ceremony in an airplane hangar in Orange County, N.Y.

    Eight years later, Norwood passed away at the age of 97.

    Eight years later, Norwood passed away at the age of 97.

    After his passing, Robina applied for survivor benefits with the SSA. She was denied after it was determined she was “legally male” at the time of their marriage — despite all the legal documents she had in her possession.

    After his passing, Robina applied for survivor benefits with the SSA. She was denied after it was determined she was "legally male" at the time of their marriage  despite all the legal documents she had in her possession.

    “I am so insulted that the Social Security Administration refused to recognize me as a woman and treated my marriage to Norwood in such a disrespectful way.”

    "I am so insulted that the Social Security Administration refused to recognize me as a woman and treated my marriage to Norwood in such a disrespectful way."

    In June 2013, Lambda Legal filed a request for reconsideration on Robina’s behalf. After more than six months, there is still no word from the Social Security Administration.

    This 92-Year-Old Trans WWII Veteran Is Fighting To Be Treated Like Any Other Widow

    She hopes that her case is a success, not for the money, but for “the act of humanity which is necessary here.”

    She hopes that her case is a success, not for the money, but for "the act of humanity which is necessary here."

    This is why laws matter you apathetic assholes

    wowwwwww this is surreal.

    (Source: thepoliticalfreakshow, via nonnonmodernist)

  5. “The assumption that work is a passport to dignity and security, that work is what makes life worth living, is so deeply embedded in our culture that it is almost heretical to think otherwise. But the problem isn’t just the lack of work. It’s also the lack of hope. Young people leaving school and university can no longer kid themselves that their future is likely to include a stable place to live, love and get on with growing up, even if they do manage to find paid work.

    Here’s what is notably not being said to the young and desperate: you are more than your inability to find a job. Your value to a potential employer is not the sole measure of your worth as a person. If you can find only precarious, exhausting, depressing work, or if you can’t find work at all, that doesn’t mean you are useless, lazy, or a “waste of space”.”

    To save a generation from despair, it’s not enough to hassle them into low-paying jobs (via moniquill)

    An awesome article. One of my favorite quotes:

    The British gov­ernment, like many others, is no longer even pretending to care about how or if the next generation gets to thrive. It is demonstrably content to sacrifice its young. That quality is not just spiteful; it is a recipe for social and cultural self-annihilation.

    (via madmaudlingoes)

    I feel like I’ve been seeing Laurie Penny linked absolutely everywhere since the beginning of the year, and I’m completely grateful for the exposure to her work. “Human beings are worth more than their usefulness to capital.” That’s why we fight.

    (via nonnonmodernist)

    (Source: brutereason, via nonnonmodernist)