1. nonnonmodernist:

    “There’s a tendency to value romantic and sexual relationships over other types of relationships, where friendship and queerplatonic connections are considered the training wheels for the real relationship, and where it’s assumed that nonsexual partners always take a back seat to other kinds of relationships. And don’t enjoy a connection with the same emotional depth as a sexual relationship. We are, after all, just the second fiddles, the entertainment while the primary partner is away. The devaluation of these kinds of connections means that many people are also deeply confused by them, especially when they encounter queerplatonic partners in person. And I do say partner, and sometimes refer to the unit formed by a partner and myself as a couple, because we are. We function like a couple, we do things together, we are intimate with each other, though not necessarily in the way people expect. We are a couple. (…) We baffle and confuse people. They don’t understand how two people who appear on the surface to be a romantic couple are not, and all the attempts in the world to disentangle their assumptions usually end up just more snarled and snagged, because of the deeply rooted social attitudes about relationships and friendships and everything between. The very concept of a queerplatonic relationship is beyond the ken for most people; even if it’s thumbnail defined as an intense friendship, though this is not really accurate, people still don’t get it. They can’t fathom the idea that people can enjoy intimate relationships that are not intimate in the sexual sense.”

    “I Don’t Mean to Baffle You, But I Do: Queerplatonic Partnerships” (via meiringens)

  2. yayponies:

obsoletehauswife:

julianahuxtable:

thepoliticalfreakshow:
Flying Solo: This 92-Year-Old Transgender Widow Is Fighting To Be Treated Like Any Other Widow

After serving as a pilot during WWII, Robina Asti transitioned to living as a woman in the 1970s.



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Now 92 years old, she fondly remembers spending time over the Pacific during World War II. She was only 21 at the time.
Getting her pilot’s license at just 18, Robina became a commercial pilot and flight instructor.




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In 1976, she decided to begin living as a woman “in body, soul, and mind.” The prejudice against her at that time was extraordinary.







Working as a vice president of a mutual fund, she would go to work in men’s clothing and then change in the evenings.
“It was quite burdensome, and I knew it would never be accepted then. So I quit and decided I had to live and work as a woman.”



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She legally changed the sex on her pilot’s license, her driver’s license, and obtained a U.S. passport as a woman. For Robina, it was a complete rebirth.



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She soon met Norwood Patton, the man who would one day become her husband.






When things became serious, Robina knew she would have to tell Norwood about her transition.






Less than a week later, Norwood came back.




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Every month, Norwood would ask for her hand in marriage. Every month, she would refuse.



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Finally in 2004, Robina married her longtime sweetheart in a small ceremony in an airplane hangar in Orange County, N.Y.
“It was, without a doubt, the finest time in my life.”



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Eight years later, Norwood passed away at the age of 97.



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After his passing, Robina applied for survivor benefits with the SSA. She was denied after it was determined she was “legally male” at the time of their marriage — despite all the legal documents she had in her possession.



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“I am so insulted that the Social Security Administration refused to recognize me as a woman and treated my marriage to Norwood in such a disrespectful way.”



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In June 2013, Lambda Legal filed a request for reconsideration on Robina’s behalf. After more than six months, there is still no word from the Social Security Administration.







She hopes that her case is a success, not for the money, but for “the act of humanity which is necessary here.”







This is why laws matter you apathetic assholes

wowwwwww this is surreal.

    yayponies:

    obsoletehauswife:

    julianahuxtable:

    thepoliticalfreakshow:

    Flying Solo: This 92-Year-Old Transgender Widow Is Fighting To Be Treated Like Any Other Widow

    After serving as a pilot during WWII, Robina Asti transitioned to living as a woman in the 1970s.

    After serving as a pilot during WWII, Robina Asti transitioned to living as a woman in the 1970s.

    Now 92 years old, she fondly remembers spending time over the Pacific during World War II. She was only 21 at the time.

    Getting her pilot’s license at just 18, Robina became a commercial pilot and flight instructor.

    This 92-Year-Old Trans WWII Veteran Is Fighting To Be Treated Like Any Other Widow

    In 1976, she decided to begin living as a woman “in body, soul, and mind.” The prejudice against her at that time was extraordinary.

    This 92-Year-Old Trans WWII Veteran Is Fighting To Be Treated Like Any Other Widow

    Working as a vice president of a mutual fund, she would go to work in men’s clothing and then change in the evenings.

    “It was quite burdensome, and I knew it would never be accepted then. So I quit and decided I had to live and work as a woman.”

    Working as a vice president of a mutual fund, she would go to work in men's clothing and then change in the evenings.

    She legally changed the sex on her pilot’s license, her driver’s license, and obtained a U.S. passport as a woman. For Robina, it was a complete rebirth.

    She legally changed the sex on her pilot's license, her driver's license, and obtained a U.S. passport as a woman. For Robina, it was a complete rebirth.

    She soon met Norwood Patton, the man who would one day become her husband.

    She soon met Norwood Patton, the man who would one day become her husband.

    When things became serious, Robina knew she would have to tell Norwood about her transition.

    When things became serious, Robina knew she would have to tell Norwood about her transition.

    Less than a week later, Norwood came back.

    This 92-Year-Old Trans WWII Veteran Is Fighting To Be Treated Like Any Other Widow

    Every month, Norwood would ask for her hand in marriage. Every month, she would refuse.

    Every month, Norwood would ask for her hand in marriage. Every month, she would refuse.

    Finally in 2004, Robina married her longtime sweetheart in a small ceremony in an airplane hangar in Orange County, N.Y.

    “It was, without a doubt, the finest time in my life.”

    Finally in 2004, Robina married her longtime sweetheart in a small ceremony in an airplane hangar in Orange County, N.Y.

    Eight years later, Norwood passed away at the age of 97.

    Eight years later, Norwood passed away at the age of 97.

    After his passing, Robina applied for survivor benefits with the SSA. She was denied after it was determined she was “legally male” at the time of their marriage — despite all the legal documents she had in her possession.

    After his passing, Robina applied for survivor benefits with the SSA. She was denied after it was determined she was "legally male" at the time of their marriage  despite all the legal documents she had in her possession.

    “I am so insulted that the Social Security Administration refused to recognize me as a woman and treated my marriage to Norwood in such a disrespectful way.”

    "I am so insulted that the Social Security Administration refused to recognize me as a woman and treated my marriage to Norwood in such a disrespectful way."

    In June 2013, Lambda Legal filed a request for reconsideration on Robina’s behalf. After more than six months, there is still no word from the Social Security Administration.

    This 92-Year-Old Trans WWII Veteran Is Fighting To Be Treated Like Any Other Widow

    She hopes that her case is a success, not for the money, but for “the act of humanity which is necessary here.”

    She hopes that her case is a success, not for the money, but for "the act of humanity which is necessary here."

    This is why laws matter you apathetic assholes

    wowwwwww this is surreal.

    (Source: thepoliticalfreakshow, via nonnonmodernist)

  3. “The assumption that work is a passport to dignity and security, that work is what makes life worth living, is so deeply embedded in our culture that it is almost heretical to think otherwise. But the problem isn’t just the lack of work. It’s also the lack of hope. Young people leaving school and university can no longer kid themselves that their future is likely to include a stable place to live, love and get on with growing up, even if they do manage to find paid work.

    Here’s what is notably not being said to the young and desperate: you are more than your inability to find a job. Your value to a potential employer is not the sole measure of your worth as a person. If you can find only precarious, exhausting, depressing work, or if you can’t find work at all, that doesn’t mean you are useless, lazy, or a “waste of space”.”

    To save a generation from despair, it’s not enough to hassle them into low-paying jobs (via moniquill)

    An awesome article. One of my favorite quotes:

    The British gov­ernment, like many others, is no longer even pretending to care about how or if the next generation gets to thrive. It is demonstrably content to sacrifice its young. That quality is not just spiteful; it is a recipe for social and cultural self-annihilation.

    (via madmaudlingoes)

    I feel like I’ve been seeing Laurie Penny linked absolutely everywhere since the beginning of the year, and I’m completely grateful for the exposure to her work. “Human beings are worth more than their usefulness to capital.” That’s why we fight.

    (via nonnonmodernist)

    (Source: brutereason, via nonnonmodernist)

  4. Ambition is demanded of us because we know mediocrity is not an option. When society tells women that if we are just averagely good-looking, or averagely smart, or reasonably high-achieving, we will never be loved and safe, perfectionism is an adaptive strategy. We learn that if we want love and security, we have to be perfect, and if it doesn’t work out, well, that means we just weren’t good enough. And we know it probably won’t work out well. Girls aren’t fools. They know what is being done to them. They know what means for their futures in terms of money and power.

    Girls get it. An under-reported, crucial facet of the study is the extent and cynicism of girls’ concerns about economic equality and unpaid work. A full 65% of girls aged 11-21 are worried about the cost of childcare, and while 58% say they “would like to become a leader in their chosen profession, 46% of them worry that having children will negatively affect their career.

    Girls know perfectly well that structural sexism means they can’t have everything they’re being told they must have. They are striving to have it all everyway, striving to have everything and be everything like good girls are supposed to, and it hasn’t broken them yet, for good or ill. That’s is one reason young women still do so well in school and at college despite our good grades not translating to real-world success. It’s one reason we’re so good at getting those entry-level service jobs: we are not burdened by the excess of ego, the desire to be treated like a human being first, that prevents many young men from engaging proactively with an economy that just wants self-effacing drones trained to smile till it hurts.

    The press just loves to act concerned about half-naked young ladies, preferably with illustrations to facilitate the concern. Somehow nothing changes. And maybe that’s the point. Maybe part of the function of the constant stream of news about young girls hurting and hating themselves isn’t to raise awareness. Maybe part of it is designed to be reassuring.

    It must be comforting, if you’re invested in the status quo, to hear that young women are punished and made miserable when they misbehave.

    I’ve said this before, but I’ll repeat it: for all those knuckle-clutching articles about how girls everywhere are about to pirouette into twerking, puking, self-hating whorishness, we do not actually care about young women - not, that is, about female people who happen to be young. Instead, we care about Young Women (TM), fantasy Young Women as a semiotic skip for all our cultural anxieties. We value girls as commodities without paying them the respect that both their youth and their personhood deserves. Being fifteen is fucked up enough already without having the expectations, moral neuroses and guilty lusts of an entire culture projected onto this perfect empty shell you’re somehow supposed to be. Hollow yourself out and starve yourself down until you can swallow the shame of the world.

    We care about young women as symbols, not as people.

  5. An Open Letter to Caitlin Moran

    fireplum:

    Dear Caitlin Moran,

    Yesterday afternoon I was with my friend and looking through the list of people she follows on Twitter, and your name appeared. I had already heard about you, mostly because your books had been recommended to me. I wondered for a moment if I should follow you too - I’m shy about following celebrities but you’re the type of person someone like me, who likes to think herself a feminist, wouldn’t be ashamed to publically be interested in. My friend, in any case, spoke very highly of you. “And you know,” she told me, “she’s hosting the Q&A of The Empty Hearse BFI event today!”

    It was only one more reason to envy you, a massively successful writer only a few years older than me, living a life of highbrow glamour at exclusive events, rubbing shoulders with interesting people. I was about to yield.

    Alas, in our Internet age, what a difference a few hours makes.

    In a rather spectacular manner, you managed to antagonise an entire fandom made up almost entirely of young, liberal-minded women like me, aka your core readership. How did you accomplish this? On paper, it doesn’t sound like much: you picked an erotic Sherlock fanfic off the Internet and made the stars of the show read an extract aloud for shits and giggles. But while it was most certainly shit, it wasn’t giggles for anyone, and least of all for us.

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  6. Emma Thompson about acting | BAFTA Life in Pictures (Nov. 24, 2013) (x)

    (Source: damethompson, via nonnonmodernist)